Read This Moving Memorial for Derrick & Amy Ross:
“A loving couple, two unique individuals, and, to me, the epitome of what a loving relationship should be.”
I am still processing the tragic loss of Derrick & Amy Ross, the husband-and-wife duo better known as Nowhere Man and a Whiskey Girl. It has been, what, 24 hours since the news broke? This isn’t much time at all in the grand scheme of things, certainly nothing in the timetable of grief, but my connection with them was that of a mere acquaintance — an admirer, a fan remembering a series of positive interactions. For those of you who are their friends and their family, I can only imagine what you are feeling right now. If it’s any consolation, Derrick and Amy’s influence spread wide in Tucson. The many shocked phone calls and IMs of disbelief I received yesterday from others who only had passing interactions with the Rosses — “did you hear about this?”, “I’m in shock right now.” — are evidence of this connection. Derrick and Amy established deep roots, and touched many people. Many mourn right now.
During my morning Google search, I found a gem of a remembrance from a blog called The Recoup that I would like to share. Joseph Kyle, a music writer who has written for a variety of publications including Pitchfork, Tiny Mix Tapes, No Depression, and Punk Planet, published a moving obituary to the couple this morning. He recounts his decade-long friendship with the Rosses but also isn’t afraid to express his confusion and grief at the same time. It’s moving, and I have excerpted a few quotes below, but please read the entire piece.
They were dark but not morose; they had a style that was both traditional and yet something different. Amy sang with a husky voice that was as warm as it was cold and off-putting. Derrick’s songwriting and playing was as natural and as appropriate for her voice; they were two artists who completely understood each other, knew each others styles, strengths, and weaknesses, and knew how to utilize this knowledge to full effect.
I don’t know when I’ll be able to listen to them any time soon–it may be a while, it may be a long time from now. Confusion and anger set in; why could this happen to them, this loving, happy, weird, funny couple? Their love was deep, it was powerful, but this ending is disturbing; I cannot begin to romanticize Derrick’s actions; I don’t understand the power of being that in love, so much so that there is no point in continuing. As angry as I am about his actions, I ultimately realize I cannot condemn him for doing so as well.
Their music, however, will live on. I suggest you buy their music. Support them; in so doing, keep them alive for eternity’s sake. I’m sure they’d like that. I know I would.
Watch the video for the lovely “Tumbleweed” below: